Warning signs that your marriage/relationship is in trouble

1.)        Working late hours or hanging out with friends

2.)        Substance Abuse:  Have you ever felt you should cut down on your drinking? Have people annoyed you by criticizing your drinking?  Have you ever felt bad or guilty about your drinking?   Have you ever had a drink in the morning to steady your nerves or get rid of a hangover?

3.)  Lack of communication:   You no longer, have anything in common.  Do you and your partner spend hours together under the same roof, at social engagements or performing routine errands, yet rarely engage in meaningful conversation? Living in silence is a primary symptom of major marital problems.   You can do no right.  Do you feel like your every action is being watched and criticized by your partner? Can you do no right in their eyes? Do you feel intimidated or afraid because of your partner’s constant criticism? Too often partners will funnel larger relationship issues into negative criticism of day-to-day tasks.

4.)    Don't neglect yourself ….Low Self Esteem or Bipolar Disorder - Here's what to do:www.more-selfesteem.com

• Low self esteem feeds on negative messages and thoughts so Don't indulge in self criticism. Why are you joining the other side to wage war against yourself? Silence your inner judge.
• You can choose to please yourself before others. It is considerate when you care about others feelings but aren't your needs just as important? Don't neglect yourself!
• Don't try to be like someone else. This leads to lack of self worth and confidence. You are unique and you cannot be someone else. Strive to be better yes but don't criticise yourself for not being as successful, as beautiful, as slim or as popular as somone else. You deserve better.
• Take life and yourself less seriously. Failure just means you are not successful YET. Everybody fails on their way to succeeding, don't look on it as failure but as a means to learning. Perhaps you just need a change of direction. Problems can make you stronger if you strive to overcome them.

• Self worth, confidence and assuredness will increase when you Focus on your needs and desires. You deserve to live life as you want. This is not selfishness as what you want doesn't hurt others or prevent them from living life on their terms.
• Focus on your successes. Lack of confidence feeds on your feelings of failure and inadequacy. Remember the truly successful things you have done in your life. Reward yourself when you do succeed.

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• Use positive affirmations and quotes. Read them every day or when you are feeling negative and need inspiration. Click here for a list of affirmations  

5.)  Verbal abuse is a form of abusive behavior involving the use of language. Verbal abuse is different from profanity in that it can occur without profanity. Emotional and/or verbal abuse is based on the concept of power and control. This can also be viewed as a "power-over" concept.   It has been further described as an ongoing emotional environment organized by the abuser for the purposes of control.

6. You can do no right.

Do you feel like your every action is being watched and criticized by your partner? Can you do no right in their eyes? Do you feel intimidated or afraid because of your partners constant criticism? Too often partners will funnel larger relationship issues into negative criticism of day-to-day tasks.

7. A change in appearance.

Over time, your comfort level will inevitably end that desire to look "perfect" for every encounter with your partner. However, a drastic decline in personal appearance and hygiene by your spouse could be a sign of they no longer care or, are happy in the marriage.

8. Looking for distractions from the problems.

If the television is on constantly, you both sit with your face buried in a book or you always have something else that needs to be done there may be a problem. It is common for individuals to find such distractions to avoid dealing with a troubled marriage.

9. Arguing over the same subject repeatedly.

If your arguments become routine with all the same issues and no resolution, then your marriage is either standing still or dying fast. You may need the assistance of a professional counselor to help find solutions to the problems that don’t seem to go away.

10. Intimacy is a thing of the past.

A considerable decline in physical affection is one of the most recognized symptoms of a failing relationship. Intimacy is the act that allows us to bond as husband and wife. If your partner is showing no or very little interest in intimacy with you then they are showing little concern for their emotional bond with you as a husband/wife.

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Radio Talk Show Interview

Kerrang Radio Talk Show w/ Amy and Nick...............November  2007

Amy Jones <Amy.Jones@kerrangradio.co.uk...... Kerrang Radio